Staying Positive Is Not Always The Best Solution To Overcome Problems
Windowofworld.com – In his research, psychiatrist Victor Frankl defines the attitude of “tragic optimism” as a perspective that is too optimistic regardless of the problems at hand. Whether it’s life’s problems, loss, pain, emotions, and guilt that we often face.
Meanwhile, the attitude of “toxic positivity” or “positive thinking that is toxic” emphasizes that we should only have a good mindset. This attitude encourages us to feel the difficult emotions that stem from a tragedy and find meaning in them.
According to Bright Side, being positive is very important, but it is not always the only answer in the face of a crisis.
Being positive in an emergency can in some cases be dangerous for us. For example, people in a “abusive relationship” may underestimate the severity of the harassment and choose to remain in the relationship.
They will have overly positive thoughts, have hopes that their abusers will change, and so forgive them for it.
Denying Our Real Feelings
When we force ourselves to look only on the bright side, we suppress negative emotions, which can make them stronger. These feelings can erupt someday, especially when we are faced with tragedy. We may even feel ashamed or guilty for having these difficult feelings.
By staying positive, we are less likely to ask for help because we think we are okay and don’t need anything. And this is very dangerous.
Cannot Grow in Times of Crisis
Making “positive thinking” an embedding spell can indirectly kill our ability to face challenges head-on. By avoiding negative emotions, we can lose valuable information.
Say a woman has just lost someone who is important to her. If he ignores the sadness, he may still deny that the person will never return and may not be able to handle funeral arrangements or even life after that person has left.
Optimism Is Not Enough
Even so, being optimistic is still important, but it is not the only thing we are aware of when dealing with crises. We should still feel pain, but we can turn the script around by turning our suffering into something.
Guilt is a normal human emotion that we shouldn’t avoid, but through it, we can take the opportunity to change for the better. When faced with loss, we should still feel sadness, but we can learn from these feelings and live life to the fullest.
The Meaning of Giving Hope to Handling Tragedy
Regardless of what life throws at us, if we can find the meaning behind it, we can move forward and one day find true happiness in life.
Hope allows us to balance the bad things that are happening right now with the possibility that we can experience the meaning of tragedy.
This is the essence of “tragic optimism”, which may be the antidote to “tocix positivity.”