Steps and Ways to Prevent Bullying by Children
Windowofworld.com – Generally, children who are bullies are accused of being cruel, unfriendly, and lacking social skills or lack of association. Prevention of bullying by children is carried out in an integrated manner and requires the support of many parties, including families and schools.
In theory, researchers used to believe that child bullies have poor social skills and low self-esteem so they don’t have friends, or they have been victims of bullying. However, these characteristics are not fully applicable.
If it is caused by social media and games, can we be able to prevent bullying?
The Indonesian Child Protection Commission stated that social media including Instagram and Facebook, as well as online games, had a significant influence on the increase in bullying cases in schools.
Unlike adults, school-age children do not fully understand the impact of Internet use. As a result, they are not aware of the impact that will occur in the real world, if they do things that are considered normal in cyberspace. For example, when playing online games, which involve movements such as hitting and punching.
To prevent bullying among children, families and schools have an important role to play. Here’s what to watch out for as a way to prevent bullying.
1. The role of the family in preventing bullying
Parents play a role in preventing and breaking the chain of bullying through parenting education. Because based on research, bullying cases can occur at home, when parents have more than two children.
Bullying by brothers or sisters is the most common form of family violence. Unfortunately, this kind of thing is even considered as part of child maturity. In fact, as a long-term impact, children who are victims of bullying in the family can experience mental disorders. The family, including parents, play an important role in stopping and preventing bullying.
It is the duty of parents to invite children to behave well and be brave. Students with harmonious families show less aggressive behavior.
2. Involve schools as a way to prevent bullying
Like families, school plays an important role in how to prevent bullying. Children who have a close relationship with their family and have the support of the school will usually stop bullying they encounter. Bullying in question ranges from physical violence, cyberbullying, isolation by certain groups, to social violence, such as harmful gossip.
Bullying cases among children
For example, the case handled by Dorothy Espelage, PhD, a school bullying researcher, interviewed a child, let’s say his name was Johnny. He was in class VII in Chicago. His father is a doctor, and his mother is a local politician. Johnny is very sociable, even he is admired by his classmates.
However, surprisingly, Johnny turned out to be the child of a bully who likes to annoy other kids. In fact, he also smoked, consumed alcohol, and was often absent. What happened to Johnny is certainly very strange, considering that he seems like a kid who has it all.
However, in the millennial era, children who are bullies can come from well-respected families. They have normal social abilities, even more than other children.
What causes children to be bullies?
In many cases, the child of the bully becomes the leader of a gang or group that is supported by other children. They become children of bullying because they try to maintain their existence or dominating position in the group because they feel they have advantages.
The bullying child will identify vulnerable bullying targets, then establish their dominance to maintain control of the group. Of course this is very negative and should not be tolerated. Habits of bullying or disturbing other children either through words (verbally) or actions, can be caused by various factors. Among these are lack of parental attention or domestic violence.
Johnny has everything, except for the attention of parents who are busy working outside the home as doctors and politicians. If allowed, the bullying child as an adult will have difficulty adjusting to society and often get into trouble. Studies show that children who are bullies get into fights, go to jail, abuse drugs or drugs, consume alcohol, and have problems in their career and marital relationships.